Women are a bit more complicated, and what men may love the most isn't what is going to get their lady to the finish line. We consulted some sex experts and adult performers – people who make sex their business – to see what positions are the best for women to enjoy. It seems that while yoga-tastic, wildly inventive advanced sex positions may be great for a change now and then, what women love the most is really missionary. Simple and delicious. Don't spend all your energy trying to make a crazy position work, spend that time focusing on pleasure while enjoying some of these timeless classics that women love.
Missionary is one of the most popular sex positions for a reason: It delivers results! It is intimate, allowing you to gaze deep into your lover's eyes as you reach the finish line. "The positioning and motion stimulates the woman's clitoris, which is what the majority of ladies (close to 70%) need in order to orgasm.
Perhaps this is why women have been rating it their top pick over the years," says sexologist Emily Morse, host of the Sex With Emily podcast and author of Hot Sex: Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight.
"The romantic and softer side of me really enjoys missionary," says adult entertainment performer Jelena Jensen, known for her work with studios like Girlfriends Films. "While in missionary, I'm able to see him above me, look into his eyes and wrap my entire body around him. There's much more of a connection while in missionary, especially with someone you have feelings for."
Adult performer and fetish model Casey Calvert agrees on missionary as a favorite. "In my book, relaxation is step one to orgasm. But besides that, missionary is my number-one position because I can control the angle of my pelvis to make sure he's really hitting just the right spot. I can do the same in cowgirl, I'm just more of a girl-on-the-bottom kinda girl!"
One of the great things about missionary is that there are plenty of ways to spice it up, says Morse. "For example, instead of laying chest to chest, try holding your partner's legs against your chest, crossed at the ankles with her thigh muscles clenched. Women will still love this variation because the clenched thighs provide the same amount of clitoral stimulation (if not more) and allow for a little more hip movement to help your partner hit that sweet spot. Men will definitely enjoy the tighter feel, the ability for deeper thrusts, and the increased visibility won't hurt either," says Morse.
If we were going by most enjoyable positions for men, doggy style would definitely make the cut. "It's no secret why men love this porn-tastic position. It is naughty, allows for full range of motion, and you really can't beat the view," says Morse. For women, on the other hand, doggy style is not always a slam-dunk. Morse suggests a variation of doggy-style that both men and women can get behind, if you'll pardon the pun.
"It's a lot like the well-known spooning position, but instead of staying on your sides, you and your partner are stacked on top of one another. Have your partner lay face down on a bed or some other soft surface with her legs slightly spread. Lie on top of her, using your arms for support (kind of like a plank) and enter her from behind. Not only does this face down configuration provide more intense friction with each thrust, the rocking motion will also create some pleasurable pressure against your clitoris for a double whammy," says Morse.
If the stacked feeling proves to be a little bit too much, you can also try placing a pillow underneath her pelvis. "The slight elevation allows for much deeper penetration, and also puts her at the perfect angle for some effortless G-Spot stimulation," says Morse.
There are other spins on traditional doggy great for women as well. "While in a flattened doggy, the man is able to hold the woman down by the small of her back. Not only is this great for women that like to be restrained, but the lower back is also an erogenous zone of the female body. This position can also allow for more G-spot stimulation," says Jensen who shares that this is a great choice for women who are more turned on by the submissive side of sex.
When it comes to female-friendly sex positions, being on top is definitely a pleaser! "With the man on his back, ladies get full control of depth and speed of motion, and are free to grind their hips in whatever way will provide the best direct clitoral stimulation. From a visual perspective, this position is just about as good as it gets for guys. Plus, because this position focuses more on rocking back and forth than thrusting in and out, men tend to last a bit longer too!" says Morse.
Some women may shy away from the standard cowgirl position because they feel too on display or are self-conscious in their movements, says Morse. "If this is the case, or if you just feel like trying something a little more comfortable, take this position to the nearest couch or chair. Sit up normally and have your partner straddle you so that you are face-to-face, or breasts-to-face, depending on height. Instead of bouncing up and down like they do in all of your favorite movies, have your partner swirl around in circles and rock back and forth so that the penis hits the wall of her G-spot over and over again. This grinding motion should also do some pretty magical things for her clitoris too, hopefully resulting in an elusive blended orgasm," says Morse.
